Hello Glorious Woman.
You long for a life that feels juicy, delicious, big, creative, wild and free.
You want to feel engaged in what you are doing. Dripping in aliveness as if you just dove into a cold mountain lake, the goosebumps rising along your skin. Soft, supple, sensual.
But if you’re honest, you’re feeling anything but.
Instead most of the time you are exhausted, frustrated, and overwhelmed. At times you fantasize about burning it all down and running away to some fairy forest or magical place far, far away, and forgetting about all your responsibilities; instead, you spend more time mindlessly scrolling Instagram and checking out of your day-to-day life.
You’ve known for a while that something’s gotta give, but you are not sure where to begin. And burning it all down, though occasionally tempting, seems impossible and perhaps a tad overdramatic.
Listen. I get it. Deeply. I have been here a time or two myself in various guises and over the last decade of coaching, I have worked with many women who have, too.
And the good thing is that there is a name for what you’re feeling.
It’s called burnout.
Often, the women I work with struggle with that word. It’s almost as if they don’t feel like they have a right to be burnt out.
“Other people do so much more than I do!”
“I am just doing normal stuff!”
“There must be something wrong with me; I can’t keep up anymore.”
Whatever they are doing (and usually it’s a lot), it’s never enough. There is always something that could be done better. Some aspect of who they are that if they could just tweak or fix or improve upon that would make the problem go away.
The tragic irony is that this very belief is part of the pattern that caused the burn out to begin with.
It is not the solution to the problem; it’s the cause of it.
When women come into my coaching practice, they have been in what I call “perpetual summer” for most of their lives.
Always doing.
Achieving.
Performing.
Improving.
Perfecting.
Helping.
Always there to lend a hand. Always there to make sure that everything goes smoothly. Always saying yes and taking on more and more and more. Always doing everything themselves and doing it well.
There is a very valid reason why we do this.
We are societally rewarded for it.
We are given the gold star, the pat on the back, the A+ grade. We are SO GOOD. We are liked by everyone and showered with praise on the regular. Why would we ever want to rock the boat or give that up?
Because deep down, we know that we lost some vital parts of ourselves long, long ago.
Sadly, no one seems to notice that we are slowly dying inside. Half the time, we don’t even have the time to notice ourselves as we struggle to keep up with the inhuman expectations that we have of ourselves.
To recover from burnout, to replenish ourselves right down to our bones, we have to dismantle the inner cage that keeps us trapped in these self-sabotaging patterns to begin with and start to call forth the voice of the wise and wild soul that lives within.
To dismantle this inner cage, we need to confront the patterns of the Good Girl and Tyrant King within.
These two energies are obstacles to claiming the slow, delicious, and meaningful life that we are craving. They prevent us from hearing, listening to, and trusting the voice of the wild soul and keep us trapped in burnout. The Good Girl and the Tyrant King are remnants of patriarchal conditioning that we have internalized. While they are running the show, we can never reclaim our deep feminine ground, come home to the wisdom of our bodies, value our emotional experience and expression, or unleash our wild imagination.
So who are the Good Girl and the Tyrant King?
Let’s start with the Good Girl.
The Good Girl is the patriarchal feminine. She is what we have been taught it means to be “good”. She is…
Self-sacrificing.
Overly concerned with what other people think, want, and need, often at the cost of knowing what SHE thinks, wants, and needs.
Pleasing, performative, and perfectionistic.
Afraid of coloring outside the lines or doing or saying anything “wrong”, and rests her locus of validation firmly outside of herself.
More concerned with how her life and choices look to other people than how they feel to her.
When the Good Girl energy is in charge, we play the chameleon, slightly changing ourselves based upon who we are around, and never pausing to ask what is true for us. We spend an awful lot of time and energy attempting to control how other people see us.
Many of us have a visceral reaction to even the words “Good Girl”; who is she to you?
So what about the Tyrant King?
This overbearing masculine presence is so common in our culture that it can be difficult to even see. It is his voice within you that barks orders and issues edicts, telling you what you should and shouldn’t do. He is your inner task-master and rule-maker, and more than anything, he wants you to be productive. Always doing. Always striving. Always achieving.
And never slowing down to ponder, “What for?” or “At what cost?”
The Tyrant King keeps us from ever fully receiving the present moment because he’s always telling us what else we should be doing. And there is never a lack of items to check off on his to-do list.
When we are being driven by our inner Tyrant King our life becomes a never-ending list of obligations that need to be completed. We are always so busy doing, either in our external lives or at the very least in our minds (which have a running tally of where we are with everything), that there is never the space or time to simply be.
And under the harsh light of the Tyrant King, a solar consciousness that has dominated a more cyclical and lunar way of being, all we are left with is what is logical, rational, and productive.
And then we wonder why our wild feminine soul feels as if she is withering.
“The shifts and changes in my life through this journey resemble the shifts in the earthly plate techtonics. I am fundamentally changed in how I discern the society in which we live. I am aware of the cultural imprints in my feelings and behaviours. I have never been able, through no work I have done so far in my life, to come as close to what I feel is my true self as through the Homecoming journey with Linda. Everyday I feel my innermost being coming alive more and more. It’s a true awakening of my soul.
Linda’s gentle guidance is full of joy, and even when there are dark paths to walk, Linda’s humor and hopeful insistence give me courage. Linda has a great gift in coaching but she is also full of knowledge and wisdom. I am beyond grateful for the opportunity to be on this journey with Linda. It has simply and truly freed me to be myself. Finally.” – Melanie
The Journey of Homecoming: The Deepening
In Homecoming: The Deepening, we will work together in an intimate one-on-one coaching container, meeting every other week via Zoom, to listen for and amplify the voice of the wild soul within. Every session is an invitation to slow down. To tend to your heart. To come home to the deep feminine ground within: your body, your emotions, your imagination and dreams.
This six-month coaching offer consists of:
- 90-minute Opening Ceremony, including either a three-card tarot spread or a 30-minute Qoya-inspired movement ritual to open the container
- 9 75-minute intuitive coaching sessions
- 90-minute mid-point check-in, including 30 minutes of Qoya Inspired Movement exploring a theme that is resonant in your life through embodiment
- 90-minute Closing Ceremony, including either a three-card tarot spread or a 30-minute Qoya-inspired movement ritual to close the container
- Sessions notes from each coaching call, where I will synthesize the major themes that were brought up on the call. These notes might also include suggested myths or stories, integration exercises, poems, artwork, and ritual suggestions. You will receive session notes from me within 24 hours of your coaching session.
- Prioritized email support where you can bring me any questions, noticings, aha moments, with a guaranteed thoughtful response (you also have the ability to upgrade to Voxer voice support)
- Weekly email check-ins from me
- A hand-selected gift to mark the end of this transition (gift will be given at the end of the program when we know each other better and I have a sense of this journey has meant for you)
- At the completion of your initial six months, you will be given the option to extend your Homecoming experience on a month-to-month basis at a rate of $550 per month for two 75-minute coaching sessions per month, complete with soul notes and all between-session support. I offer this because each journey is different and rarely fits into a neatly boxed timeline.
Coaching sessions follow an intuitive flow, where there is no set agenda for each session. We learn to trust what is coming forth, and work with that.
“Linda is a gifted, attentive listener. Her ability to hold space for whatever arises creates a sense of tremendous safety. I’ve needed that over these last six months as I have unraveled a very difficult time in my life. Linda’s empathy and support has been both validating and expanding for me. She has gently and consistently guided me to get out of my head and to be more grounded, and as a result, has helped me be in more touch with my own wisdom and intuition. She writes beautiful, thoughtful notes after each session (which I have treasured). She is caring, generous, wise (so wise!), articulate and also has a wicked sense of humor.” – Laura
Generally, there are two main facets to the Deepening journey.
Facet #1 – Seeing The Patterns
The first is helping you to see, name, and shift the patterns of the Good Girl and the Tyrant King that are driving you towards burnout and preventing you from hearing (and trusting) your own inner voice. We might work with what is showing up in your daily life, what is triggering you, or where things feel a bit sticky or stagnant. This might encompass the bigger questions like, “How do I know what my purpose is?” to the impact of smaller, daily interactions, like getting upset with a friend.
Facet #2 – Welcoming the Deep Feminine Back Into Your Life
When we have lived under the spell of the Good Girl and the Tyrant King for much of our lives, the nourishment, grounding, and soulful nature of the deep feminine is often entirely missing. We need to court this energy. Remember that this is simply a way of being that has been buried and forgotten, but still exists within you, wholly intact.
Each Homecoming session is an invitation to slow down and peer underneath the covers of your life. We move beyond the rational and mental realm, and into the world of magic and mystery. We follow what is quietly calling to your curiosity, listen for your intuitive nudges, and amplify the voice of your wild soul. These practices help you to connect deeply with yourself and to life as the magical and awe-inspiring experience it is. We might bring in:
- Your night dreams
- Dance and embodiment practices
- Poetry
- Metaphor
- Art
- Stories and myths
- Oracle cards
- Visualization and other imaginative practices
- Ritual
- The rhythms of nature, like working with the seasons and the moon
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Is There A Guarantee?
This is not your standard coaching program, where I make a bunch of guarantees as to what your life will look like at the end of it. I can’t promise you what external benchmarks you will achieve.
Homecoming: The Deepening is less about what it looks like, and more about how it feels.
It’s less about your external life, and more about cultivating a rich inner life and seeing how that life wants to blossom open into the world.
3 Things I Won’t Promise You
- A Step-By-Step Plan – Each individual soul is different, and for that reason, every coaching session and every coaching journey is different. There is no one size fits all approach to a human being. I cannot give you a 10-step plan to become more of yourself. Will I provide you context regarding where I think you might be in your journey? Yes. Will I share what I see regarding patterns that might be hindering your soul voice from shining through? Yes. But I will not be providing you with ways for you to get out of the places in yourself that feel uncomfortable. In fact, I am more likely to lovingly guide you into those places. We will venture where we are guided and explore the terrain until we feel called to meander to new territory.
- An Accountability Buddy – If you are looking for a coach who will help to hold you accountable to the goals that you set, I am not your gal. I will not conspire and collude with your inner Tyrant King. That is not because I don’t want to see your deepest soul longings and dreams come to fruition, but rather because I believe that there is something innate within you that actually wants to come forth in its own divine timing (if you are feeling this inner call of emergence and have already been on the inner journey, I invite you to look at Homecoming: The Blossoming). It doesn’t need to be forced or pushed or held accountable. Not even by you, and definitely not by me. What I will do is help you to listen to that voice of subtle yearning, that blossoming curiosity, and trust in its organic unfolding.
- Measurable External Results – Like I said above, I cannot promise you what your life will look like at the end of six months, because I have no idea what your wild soul has in store for you! I don’t know what kind of magic your soul and mother nature and the mystery of the universe will cook up when those blockages are removed. That’s not for me to know. And if you’ve been trapped in the Good Girl/Tyrant King dynamic, you probably have no idea either! You need time to separate out your authentic voice from the voices of others that you have internalized, to find a space where you can hear your own desires outside of what you have been taught you “should” want. In the words of T.S. Eliot, hope would be hope for the wrong thing.
Wait Without Hope
I said to my soul, be still, and wait without hope
For hope would be hope for the wrong thing; wait without love,
For love would be love of the wrong thing; there is yet faith
But the faith and the love and the hope are all in the waiting.
Wait without thought, for you are not ready for thought:
So the darkness shall be the light, and the stillness the dancing.
Whisper of running streams, and winter lightning.
The wild thyme unseen and the wild strawberry,
The laughter in the garden, echoed ecstasy
Not lost, but requiring, pointing to the agony
Of death and birth.
T.S. Eliot, East Coker
What I Will Promise You…
So you might be wondering, if you can’t give me a plan or any tangible results to measure our work by, what on earth are you offering me? If I didn’t scare you away already, I have a sneaking suspicion that your soul is what has led you here, not your Tyrant King or your Good Girl. This is what I can offer a woman who desires to be led by her wild soul and live a slow and delicious life in communion with the world:
A Soft Place to Land
Because so much of our world is run by the Tyrant King, we have very few soft places to land. We have zones of judgment and criticism, where we compare and measure our results and our behavior. There are very few places where we can bring all of ourselves without fear of judgment. Our excitement. Our joy. Our fear. Our grief. Without being told that one of them is wrong or needs to be fixed or transcended.
Homecoming is a place where you get to be fully human. Where all parts of you are welcome and held in love. We welcome the pieces of you that have been exiled to the dungeon; and we celebrate their return. With gentleness, curiosity, and compassion, I will help you to explore what has been holding you back and what it is that you most long for.
To be a fierce and confident guide
What I will offer you throughout is my unwavering support. My confidence in your soul’s capacity to lead you. My belief in the blossoming that is possible for you. I will share the wisdom that I have gained through experience, as well as that which I have learned through others (by sharing their words or images or stories) if I feel like it might be good medicine for you.
A space that lacks an agenda
We may venture into areas within your inner landscape that are unmapped terrain. Or we may meander through the same dark patch of forest or circumambulate the same meadow again and again, if that is what is needed. There is no sense of the path that you “should” take or a timeline as to when you need to get “there”. This is a space to explore at leisure. A space to cultivate a rich inner life in whatever form that takes. This isn’t a class where you need to fear falling behind or doing the homework on time. Coming home to yourself is a process, not a destination, and dropping our need to always be efficiently moving towards an end goal that never seems to arrive is part of the point.
To help remove the obstacles
I cannot promise or even predict what your soul’s journey will be in this lifetime, or the magic that life might have in store for you. What I can do is to help you become conscious of, and thereby remove, the obstacles that stand in the way of you hearing your own wild soul, and trusting in her wisdom. By bringing the patterns of the Good Girl and the Tyrant King to consciousness, by seeing and naming them, we depotentiate them. One by one, we begin to take out what is damming the river so that your soulful waters can flow unencumbered once again.
To listen for “the river beneath the river” in the words of Clarissa Pinkola Estés
I will listen for what is left unsaid, for your soul’s whispers that you may not hear clearly yet because of the incessant chatter of the Good Girl and the Tyrant King. I will amplify those whispers and speak them back to you so that you can begin to hear your true voice more clearly. When you drop beneath the voice of your Tyrant King, what wants to emerge from you? What do you most long for? What is your authentic voice? These are some of the questions that will guide us along the way.
“It is said that teachers come when we are ready for them. If you feel something stir inside you telling you that there could be more to life, there could be more of YOU – that something is somehow amiss – Linda is the right person to help you weave the threads of your being into a wonderful and magical tapestry – your very own self.” Melanie
Homecoming: The Deepening might be for you if…
- You long for a rich and meaningful life, where the simple pleasures like biting into a juicy peach on a summer’s day or jumping into a cool mountain lake or the soft snores of your partner sleeping beside you remind you how grateful you are to be alive.
- You want a greater sense of mystery and magic, where life feels delightfully synchronistic and is if the whole world is speaking with you (like when you think of someone and then they call you out of the blue or when you’re sitting out in nature a butterfly lands on your hand), and and yet you are quite practical and grounded to reality
- You tend to be in your head a lot, and have a difficult time connecting with your body. When you are in a yoga class, you worry about doing it right. If you’re on a walk, you are entirely lost in your own inner monologue. If you are dancing, you can’t help but worry whether you look silly to other people. Even in the midst of an activity that is devoted to being in your body, you have a hard time dropping in and actually feeling your body.
- You are ready to shift your focus from the external journey to the inner journey
- You’ve been a pleaser and over-achiever for much of your life
- You know that you are a creative soul, and yet the creativity that you are hungry for seems out of reach
- You want to cultivate a deeper relationship with yourself and your own inner life
- You are quite sensitive at your core, though you often try to hide or push through it
- You are willing to lay down your agenda, your goals, and your to-do lists, at least for a time
- A softer, slower pace feels like a welcome gift (and maybe a far-off dream)
- You want to cultivate greater trust in both yourself and life
- You believe that the most important things in life are intangible and can’t be measured
- You’re willing to be with discomfort
On the contrary, this is not a good fit if…
- If you are still really tied to the external journey, and want to measure “success” by external benchmarks
- You believe in high vibes only or that certain emotions are “low vibration” and should therefore be transcended
- You really want a step-by-step plan
- You believe that life is limited to what you can see with your physical eyes, and what can be rationally and logically understood
- Weaving movement, the cycles of the seasons and the moon, oracle cards, and more into our time together isn’t your thing
- All of this just sounds like a bunch of baloney to you
The Session
Though our sessions take place virtually, either via Zoom or over the phone (with the exception of the 90-minute sessions, which all take place via Zoom), from the minute the session starts you will know that you have walked into sacred time and space. I will invite you to find a place where you can curl up comfortably and won’t be disturbed.
The first 10-15 minutes of our session is spent in a grounding meditation, where you will be able to root into your body and mama earth, and let go of any stress or tension that may have gathered between sessions. Taking this time is so important, as it helps you to drop below the busyness of the mind and the constant to-dos of your Tyrant King and invite your embodied soul wisdom to come through more clearly. Occasionally, I may open up our session by pulling an oracle card, if I feel so moved. Or I might put on a song and we will both shake our bodies vigorously!
The session follows an intuitive flow of what wants to come through. Sometimes clients have particular experiences and stories they want to share or work through, other times they come to the session with no idea what we are going to talk about. It never ceases to amaze me how in either case your own wild soul, when given the space and time to meander and be heard, has so many potent things to share.
At the mid-point of the program, Homecoming also includes a guided Qoya-inspired live movement session to help you feel, embody, and ritualize what you are moving through. Much like with the meditation, this invites you to more fully inhabit your body and not only approach this work through your mind.
After each session, you will receive the session notes emailed to you within 24 hours of the completion of your session (I like to noodle on the themes for a while). Occasionally, these may include suggested integration practices or rituals to play with, but there is not a designated amount of time that you need to devote to this practice every week. These suggestions will be there for you if and when your wild heart feels called to them. If you are being driven by your inner Tyrant King and Good Girl, the propensity will be to want to turn coming home to yourself into another project. You will want homework to complete to know that you are “doing it right” and “staying on schedule”.
You won’t receive that.
Even if the only time you devote to the program is our allotted session time, I trust that is enough and right.
This isn’t a process that you need to work on; it’s a process that will work on you.
A Soft Place to Land
There are few spaces where all parts of us are welcomed with compassion. Where nothing is left out. Where there is space to feel the ecstatic joy and most crushing sadness.
This is a deep program, but I also want you to know that we tread lightly, with curiosity, and a hefty dose of fun. Because deep work doesn’t have to be so damn serious. What surprises my clients most about this journey is usually how much we laugh in our time together. There is space for both tears of joy and tears of sadness, sometimes in the same breath! That is what it means to be a living, breathing, and feeling human being! Contradictions are welcome. Your complexity is welcome. Your doubt, your skepticism, your childlike wonder…all are welcome.
If your soul responds to this with a quiet, but resounding “yes….” then I invite you to schedule a Soul Diving Session, where we will get to see if our energy jives together and if we both think that this will be a good fit. A Soul Diving Session is a 45-minute, discounted coaching session ($70) and is a required prerequisite in order to embark upon the Homecoming journey.
I don’t believe in the hard sales pitch, so please don’t let that fear stop you from scheduling a call if you feel the tug from deep within. I promise to honor your inherent sovereignty and trust in your capacity to make the best decision for yourself. I promise that if I don’t think this is the best program for you, that I will tell you that.
Because of the intimacy and depth of the container, I only offer Homecoming to a handful of women at a time.
The cost for Homecoming: The Deepening is $3,900 USD.
Six months of Homecoming includes:
- 90-minute Opening Ceremony, including either a three-card tarot spread or 30 minutes of Qoya-inspired movement to open the container
- 9 75-minute intuitive coaching sessions
- 90-minute mid-point check-in, including 30 minutes of Qoya Inspired Movement exploring a theme that is resonant in your life
- 90-minute Closing Ceremony, including either three-card tarot spread or 30 minutes of Qoya-inspired movement to close the container
- Sessions notes from each coaching call, where I will synthesize the major themes that were brought up on the call. These notes might also include suggested myths or stories, integration exercises, poems, artwork, and ritual suggestions. You will receive session notes from me within 24 hours of your coaching session.
- Prioritized email support where you can bring me any questions, noticings, aha moments, with a guaranteed thoughtful response (you also have the ability to upgrade to Voxer voice support between sessions for a total of $4,500; this option is only available to 3 women at a time, as it is extremely high-touch. It’s like having a wild soul mentor and coach in your pocket!)
- Weekly check-ins from me
- A hand-selected gift to mark the end of this transition (gift will be given at the end of the program when we know each other better and I have a sense of this journey has meant for you)
“I came to Linda feeling completely trapped. Now I am seeing possibilities where there were none six months ago. My experience of having Linda as my coach has been nothing short of magical, and I couldn’t be more grateful to have had this transformative, healing time with her.” – Laura
The Truth of the Matter
I know that investing in a program like this can feel like a giant risk.
I get it.
It kind of is a big risk.
I am not promising you any tangible ROI. There is nothing that you can go show to your partner or your friends that will say, “See! I reached this external benchmark, so it was all worth it!”. Only you will know if it is worth it because this journey is about you. Your soul. Your connection to life.
What I have found is that it is much easier to spend money on our businesses or our homes or our families than it is on ourselves.
There is nothing to hide behind here.
There is no way to justify this expense to the Tyrant King, not the one who lives inside of you or those that may be a part of your life. People may wonder what the heck you are doing. A part of you may wonder what the heck you are doing! That’s to be expected.
There may come a time in the journey when things feel even more unclear and murky than they do now.
Know that.
Expect that.
Homecoming is a portal to rebirth of a wilder, wiser, more authentic version of you. But rebirth does require a metaphorical death of the old. Some of the ways that you have been showing up for others in your life may shift. This might make them, and you, uncomfortable. It may shift the nature of your relationship. For a time, you may not know who you are anymore and you may feel dreadfully lost. Dreams may crop up where you are trying to get to your childhood home, but the road is impassable. This is all part of the process, but it is a real risk and it can be very uncomfortable.
It’s not for everyone.
If you long for a space to call your own, to land gently but firmly in the truth of who you are, I invite you to schedule your Soul Diving Session. This session will give you a taste of what it is like to work with me and my energy, and will give me an opportunity to better understand what you are moving through in your life. The Soul Diving Session is not a hard sell, and if I don’t believe that we are a good fit, I promise to tell you that kindly but honestly.
This is Too Much for Me Right Now
This journey is a commitment.
It is deep and intimate, and that’s why I love it so much. But I also realize it’s not for everyone.
If this is too large of a commitment, time-wise, money-wise, or emotionally, I invite you to check out some of my other offerings.
- Read my book Homecoming: One Woman’s Story of Dismantling the Inner Cage and Freeing Her Wild Feminine Soul – available now via Amazon (if outside the US, search linda katz homecoming in the Amazon search bar)
- Work through the Homecoming Companion Guide – Currently being gifted when you sign up to receive my Wild Ponderings newsletter here
- Attend a workshop or a dream circle – View upcoming events here
Some people want to dive straight into the deep end, while others prefer to wade in more slowly and gradually. Each approach carries its own gifts, and I trust in your capacity to listen to your own body and soul wisdom as to which approach feels right for you.
Homecoming: The Deepening
In a world that is dominated by the productivity, the rationality, the logic and the constant doing and busyness of the Tyrant King, Homecoming is a place to drop into what is most true for you. To slow down and hear the quiet whispers of your own wild soul. To cultivate a rich inner life.
Your wild feminine soul thrives in the soft moonlight, in the dark and fertile places where the exacting and analytical eye of the Tyrant King cannot reach. She cannot be captured, only courted. When we are separated from this wildness within, our lives start to dry out like the skin of the Selkie, the seal woman, who has been on land for far too long, separated from her true home in the sea. When too much of life is spent on the surface, focused on our tasks and external lives, we start to feel brittle and weak and arid. We become reactive and impatient.
The medicine is to make space for and evoke the wild soul back into our lives.
She who provides the life-giving moisture, who dances with the mystery, and rocks us back to life when we have grown weary of too many obligations.
She who already lives buried within your bones and the dark caverns within your body, and patiently waits for you to remember your ancient soul song to call her back up from the deep.