Last year around this time I designated 2018 as my year of the SACRED NO.

2018 was a year of focus. I wanted to get crystal clear on what was in alignment in my life and business, and what was not. And if it wasn’t a 100% yes, it was going to be a firm no.

Coming to the end of 2018, I feel like I met my intention. I got focused this year, built new structures in my business, invested in a coach, made responsible and level-headed decisions. I said yes to way fewer things. I gave myself time to sit with something before committing. I shored up my boundaries hardcore.

I am so grateful for the lessons of this past year, and…

As I look back, I realize I didn’t leave a lot of room for spontaneity and adventure and LIFE. I firmed up my NO, created more space and less frazzle in my life, but became a bit afraid to say YES to what I really desired.

That is why I have designated 2019 as my year of the HOLY HELL YES.

Here is the thing. I couldn’t have gotten here without this past year. I now trust in my own ability to say no to what doesn’t fully resonate, and that has allowed me to begin to stretch into saying YES to the things that do. Even if they are outside of my comfort zone. Even if my heart begins to beat a little faster when I think of them.

Our boundaries are meant to give space for life to thrive within us, not to keep life out. To find that sweet spot, sometimes we have to journey to the extremes so that we can integrate them back into our lives in a more holistic way.

So that we trust in and fully own our ability say both YES and NO when the time calls for it.

This is the way of the feminine. She thrives in paradox.

My invitation for you is to ask yourself what you need more of in your life in the coming year, the Sacred No or the Holy Hell Yes.

Do you struggle with saying no to that which in your heart of hearts you don’t want to do?

 

Do you find yourself saying yes as a default without taking the time to pause and see if that is actually the truest answer?

Do you have a hard time saying yes to things that light your soul on fire?

Do you find it difficult to say yes and embrace your authentic desires, perhaps because you don’t believe they will come to fruition or fear that you are not worthy of them?

Our growth edges morph and change shape over time.

There is never a one-size fits all answer.

And you may find that what was once your biggest ailment, over time, becomes just the medicine that you need.

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My approach to coaching is that it starts where you are. What needs to fall away in your life. What you desire more of. Where you are hungry for more confidence and strength. Where you may need an extra dose of softness and humility.

My goal for myself and for the women that I work with is to become more whole human beings. To become only ever more of who we truly are. To learn and stretch and grow, and also to circle back, dig deep, and reclaim what has been here all along.

If you are ready to dive into this journey in 2019, I invite you to schedule a free 30-minute Soul Diving Session (aka a Discovery Call) with me via my online scheduler to see if coaching would be supportive and nourishing for you in the coming year.